How to Make Conversation
Being able to make conversation, especially with new people, is a key skill for your professional and personal life. Here is how to make chit-chat more than a chore.
- View its potential. Some people view small talk as boring or uncomfortable. If this is you, try to change your mindset—view small talk as a gateway to a deeper conversation.
- Be curious. Lead with your interests. For example, if you love coffee and want to strike up a conversation with a barista, ask him what his favorite coffee drink is.
- Listen. Ask questions based on details the other person sprinkles into the conversation. For instance, if she mentions where she grew up, ask her what she liked about the city or why she moved.
- Try a comment instead of a question. For example: “You have the cutest dog” or “This line is taking forever.”
- Find an obvious connection. If someone is drinking out of a water bottle with your college logo, you can bond over your alma mater. These conversations tend to go better because you’re discussing something you both care about.
- Avoid certain topics. Although outward cues can provide conversation starters, don’t comment on a person’s physical appearance or religious wear, and never make assumptions about or comments on someone’s background, income level, sexuality, or politics.
- Finally … it’s okay to talk about the weather. It’s a genuine shared experience.
For more advice, read “How to Master the Art of Small Talk.”